The space before words

by | Nov 27, 2017 | Connecting Coaches | 0 comments


It’s a grey day here in Dartmouth. I’m here for a couple of nights, enjoying the view across the estuary, feeling a settled calm of peace inside.

There is something refreshingly uncomplicated watching the car ferry manoeuvre across from Kingswear; it is consistent and repetitive, back and forth with its chugging purr.

I’m so high up, looking down on the swooping seagulls, squawking and bad tempered as they scavenge for scraps. Jumbled roof-tops spread out below like a fan towards the water’s edge.

Inside I feel calm and in a settled place, I sense a spaciousness and a rooted connection to ‘what is’. There is no need for words, or explanations – I’m grounded in a deep OK-ness of this present experience. Nothing to work out, nothing to change, nothing to be busy about.

Then my intellect stirs from its slumber and wants to make a story up and put words to this feeling. I notice it search for words and stories to explain what’s going on. I keep watching it, curious. But my intellect is lazy today and it rolls over back to sleep. No words are necessary there is nothing to work out.

My job as a coach is so simple now. My job is to point people back inside themselves. To encourage them to be curious about the true nature of who they are.

When I stand in my own simplicity of understanding I seem able to help awaken the powerful, spiritual simplicity of others.

I’m reminded of the Byron Katie book title, ‘Who are you without your story?’ In this moment, as I gaze on the slate grey waters of the Dart I understand this question and what it points to. I connect with who I am without my story.

Who are you without your stories? Beneath the busy, revved up tangle of thoughts – who are you?

When we gently rest our attention on this space there is no need for stories, ideas or concepts. When we rest our attention on this space we have no need to work things out. It is the space before and beyond words.

About Liz Scott & Stuart Newberry

Liz Scott & Stu Newberry are Coaching Skills trainers and 3P practitioners. They help develop coaching cultures within schools and organisations. Liz & Stu use their understanding of the 3Ps within their training and are experiencing great successes and results in the organisations they are working in. Download an Introduction to the Three Principles here.

Want to de-stress in just 28 days? Recharge on the Run is a FREE audio series (delivered to your inbox daily) that will help you discover your inner peace of mind. Find out more about Liz & Stu at Liz Scott Coaching and Training


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