Grumpy as a gorilla
Yesterday I was grumpy, as grumpy as a gorilla – but why?
Was the cold morning walk to blame for my mood? It was colder than I had anticipated. My gloveless hands were chilled and my eyes watered in the wind. Even the moorland hills, covered in bracken and glistening orange in the glow of the autumnal sun failed to raise my spirits.
Maybe I could blame the grumpy feeling on the dog, he was barking and restless when as we ordered our breakfast at the golf club. Our quiet morning treat was interrupted by our fidgeting hound.
Or maybe my grumpiness was because I had to battle through a busy supermarket, dodging trolleys, fretting parents and sullen couples. A Sunday in the supermarket, that’s just not fair. Surely that was the reason for me feeling flat.
However, when I told Stu I was feeling grumpy it wasn’t to catalogue my woes, or ask him to make things better. I told him to warn him that on this particular day I wasn’t sparkling company.
It’s great that we both know that happiness, grumpiness, sadness and joy are all normal. There is nothing to do, nothing that is wrong and nothing to fix. Feelings come and go, that is the nature of them. It’s so good not to feel frightened of my feelings, it’s so good not to feel guilty or worried when I’m low. It’s so good not to get busy trying to feel better, or to fix the external world.
The greatest freedom in the world is realising that deep inside we are all psychologically resilient and wise and beyond the ‘weather’ of everyday feelings.
Stu knows this too. He knows that my mood will lift (it always does) and as fresh thought comes through fresh emotions emerge.
Sure enough, we were on the Hoe in Plymouth admiring the Remembrance poppies when I noticed my grumpiness had lifted. I admired the beauty of the display and then lifted my head to watch the silvery late afternoon light on the sea below. I clutched Stu’s hand, told him I was feeling better and we headed off to have a cup of tea.
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About Liz Scott & Stuart Newberry
Liz Scott & Stu Newberry are Coaching Skills trainers and 3P practitioners. They help develop coaching cultures within schools and organisations. Liz & Stu use their understanding of the 3Ps within their training and are experiencing great successes and results in the organisations they are working in. Download an Introduction to the Three Principles here.
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